IELTS Speaking Tests with Simon Categories
در صفحه زیر، سوالات اسپیکینگ آیلتس همراه با پاسخهای پیشنهادی آمده است. این موارد برای آمادگی شما در برابر سوالاتی که ممکن است ممتحن از شما بپرسد و نحوه پاسخ به آنها ارائه شده است. اگرچه موضوعات مشترکی در اسپیکینگ آیلتس وجود دارد، اما برخی از این موضوعات اندکی متفاوت هستند.
بیش از 50 سوال بخش دوم و سوم، به همراه پاسخ پیشنهادی باند 8 الی 9 آن موضوع آمده است. این سوالات اغلب عمومی میباشند و معمولاً fluency و دستور زبان شما را آزمایش می کند. پاسخ ها تفکری در مورد آنچه دقیقاً از طرف اگزمینرها از شما انتظار می رود، ارائه میکند.
برای دیدن هر دسته بندی در پیش بینی سوالات اسپیکینگ آیلتس بر روی دکمههای زرد کلیک کنید.
این صفحه نه تنها حاوی پرسش و پاسخ سوالات اخیر اسپیکینگ آیلتس است بلکه شامل واژگان مهم که به صورت پررنگ (bold) مشخص شده است، می باشد. این واژگان خاص نیز در زیر سوال با معنی و مثال توضیح داده شده است تا به درک و کاربرد آن کلمه کمک کند. هر موضوع همچنین شامل اصطلاحات، محاوره ها و عباراتی است که به شما کمک می کند تا امتیاز باند خوبی کسب کنید.
تکنیک پاسخگویی به سوالات اسپیکینگ آیلتس چگونه است؟
همانگونه که در پایین مشاهده میکنید، سوالات اسپیکینگ آیلتس در شش دستهبندی people, place, object, event, activity, favorite آمده است. چنانچه با تکنیک پاسخگویی به سوالات اسپیکینگ پارت 2 آشنا نیستید، اینجا کلیک کنید.
نحوه ایده پردازی در IELTS Speaking به چه صورت است؟
اگر فقط از دایرهلغات ذهن خودتان استفاده کنید، چیز جدیدی یاد نخواهید گرفت و پیشرفت نخواهید کرد. تمرین کنید تا ایدههای گفته شده در هر سوال را با نظرات خود مرتبط کنید. شما صرفاً نباید مانند نمونه جواب ها صحبت کنید، بلکه باید از نظرات خود هم استفاده کنید. جملاتی که با موضوع اسپیکنیگ همخوانی نداشته باشند، نمره شما را تاحدودی کاهش خواهد داد.
چگونه برای IELTS Speaking Prat 3 آماده شوید؟
پیشنهاد من (بهرام زندی) این است که دایره لغات خودتان را برای 6 دسته زیر بالا ببرید. اولین قدم شناسایی نوع دسته سوال است. سپس در مورد آن سوال، داستانی واقعی یا تخیلی بسازید. برای دیدن اصطلاحات کاربردی اسپیکینگ آیلتس اینجا کلیک کنید.
پیدا کردن پارتنر برای اسپیکینگ آیلتس؟
شما باید فردی را پیدا کنید که به یادگیری زبان علاقه داشته باشد و اهداف علمیاش با شما مشابه باشد. این کار می تواند برای تقویت اسپیکینگ آیلتس از دیگر کارها سرگرم کننده تر باشد. شما میتوانید به یکدیگر کمک کنید تا چیزهای جدیدی یاد بگیرید. همچنین یکی از مزیتهای این روش، رایگان بودن آن است. میتوانید یادداشت ها و منابع خود را به اشتراک بگذارید و از همنشینی با دوستتان لذت ببرید. همچنین به شما کمک می کند تا از یک برنامه منظم پیروی کنید. اما نکته مهم این است که در هنگام انتخاب فرد مورد نظر، دقت لازم را به خرج دهید. مهمترین نکته برنامه ریزی برای ساعات صحبت کردن است.
IELTS Speaking Part 2 and 3
Describe a friend who is a good leader
You should say,
- who this person is
- how you know them
- how they behaved
- and explain why you think they are a good leader
(who this person is) (how you know them) Some people are born influential. They have a knack of dealing with people. I believe it is inborn. Of course, there are classes conducted to inculcate leadership qualities, but not everybody becomes one. My friend in school, Susan had some special qualities, and I always admired her. We became friends from sixth grade. Her parents worked for the Central Government and were deputed to the southern part of India. So, she joined our school.’
(how they behaved) She was exceptional. She was very sincere in her studies and was also very good at tennis and kho kho. Infact, she was the captain of the kho kho team. She was very helpful and was always ready to lend her notebooks when someone who was on leave asked for them. When students struggling in math approached her, she would gladly help. She never lied. She also helped the teachers carry the pile of notebooks to the staff room. She was appointed as the leader of the class. We became thick friends and are in touch till date.
(explain why you think they are a good leader) If someone could become a leader of a class in sixth grade, they could definitely become the school pupil leader in twelfth grade, and she did become one, but in another school. She could motivate people and get things done from them. She was a doer with a positive attitude. If someone could be a leader of a school, I believe that they can definitely climb the leadership ladder in any field that they choose.
Influential (adj) – having great influence on someone or something.
Eg: Tony was a very influential person in ABC company.
Inborn (adj) – natural to a person or animal.
Eg: Linda had an inborn talent for painting.
Captain (noun) – the leader of a team, especially in sports.
Eg: Jane was the captain of the basketball team.
Doer (noun) – a person who acts rather than merely talking or thinking.
Eg: Jack was a doer.
Leadership (noun) – the action of leading a group of people or an organization.
Eg: She soon reached the leadership position in ABC company.
1. Who is the head of the family in your culture?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Generally, the oldest male is the head of the family. But in cases of death of the male, the oldest female becomes the head.
2. Are men better at decision making in a family?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Usually, older people are considered to be good at making decisions because of their experience and wisdom. It includes older men and women in the family. Also, there is no scientific evidence that men are good decision-makers. Women are equally good at making good decisions. In fact, it depends on how much knowledge they have on a particular topic. (Give an example) For example, if the wife is a chartered accountant, she may make better decisions w.r.t making investments.
3. Do you think that in the future there will be more women leaders?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Women are indeed encouraged more. As society is supportive, there may be more women leaders. Also, there are reservations for women in every field. (Give an example) For example, corporate companies and major investment banks have made it mandatory to have at least a few women leaders on board.
4. Should a leader discuss with team members when making decisions?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Yes, of course. (Explain your reason or reasons) Every team member must be consulted before arriving at a conclusion. But the leader should also have a hold on his/her team members. The leader must not let anyone dominate him. The leader’s decision should be final; however, the opposition it may face. In fact, the leader should be able to convince everyone.
5. How do you see a leader now and in the future?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Leadership qualities remain the same, whether it is past, present, or future. A good leader will have admirable traits like honesty, integrity, helpfulness. So, there would not be much difference between leaders now and in the future. In fact, as we take examples from leaders of our past, so would the future generations.
Wisdom (noun) – the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise.
Eg: He listened to his grandfather’s words of wisdom.
Topic (noun) – a matter dealt with in a text, discourse, or conversation; a subject.
Eg: She spoke spontaneously on the topic given.
Reservations (noun) – the action of reserving something. [Reserving (verb) – arrange for (a room, seat, ticket, etc.) to be kept for the use of a particular person].
Eg: Some colleges have reservations for scheduled tribes.
Have a hold (phrase) – Have a controlling influence over.
Eg: Ashley’s father had a hold on her.
Convince (verb) – persuade (someone) to do something.
Eg: The doctor convinced the patient for surgery.
Describe the person you spend the most time with
You should say,
- who this person is?
- what kind of person he or she is?
- what you usually do together
- and explain why you spend the most time with this
(who this person is) I love my Dad. I spend the most time with him. Though I have moved to the UK, after my graduation, we exploit the internet to the fullest. I chat with him on WhatsApp, Skype and also over a prepaid calling card.
(what kind of person he or she is) He is a warm person full of love for me. Though he is friendly, he never hesitated to advise me on important things. He would be so kind to the extent that he won’t even hurt the ants that bit him hard. He never pressured me to score high marks. His helping tendency was well known in our area. He always got the best things for me, from bags to dresses and books.
(what you usually do together) We used to take long walks and play carrom whenever we got together. He did pay a visit to the UK. But I could see that he had become old. Though he couldn’t walk for a long time, he never complained about it. He was careful not to let me know of his illnesses. But I figured out that his left arm had a problem.
(explain why you spend the most time with this person) He is my friend and guide. I feel easy to confide anything with him. He would advise me from the bottom of his heart. His sense of humour would lighten even the toughest moment. I used to talk to him about my career plans and get his opinion on it. As a retired banker, he taught me how to invest money. And the list is never-ending.
Friendly (adj) – kind and pleasant.
Eg: Ken was a friendly person.
Complained (verb) – express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something.
Eg: Sara always complained of the chilliness during winters.
Confide (verb) – tell someone about a secret or private matter while trusting them not to repeat it to others.
Eg: The boss confided the company secrets with Jim.
Sense of humour (noun) – a person’s ability to perceive humour or appreciate a joke.
Eg: Tom had a great sense of humour.
1. How many generations usually live together in India?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) India did have a joint family system where up to three generations lived together. But it is no more in place. The latest trend is parents living in India and children living in foreign countries. After the death of one parent, the other lives separately or joins their children abroad. In cases where the children are in India, they choose an apartment near their companies, which would usually be on the outskirts of the city, while the parents will be living separately in their home in the city or town.
2. Is it important to visit family members?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Yes, it is very much important to visit family members. (Explain your reason or reasons) Maintaining a bond with the family members is essential because the family defines our identity. They are very supportive during tough times.
3. What are the values of family in your country?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) An Indian family is based on the core principle of sacrificing one’s needs for the welfare of the family. Especially, the mother in the family is an embodiment of sacrifice. It is for this reason that women are regarded with great respect in India. There are also other values like respect for elders, affection towards siblings, etc. (Give an example) For example, it is very common in India for an elder brother to contribute a major share for his sister’s marriage. This would be considered as his duty and will not be repaid.
4. Why is family bonding necessary for happiness in life?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) It is family bonding that ensures happiness in life. The love and affection towards our family members will bestow a sense of security. It also gives us a sense of belongingness.
5. Do you think the support from a friend is different from the support from a family member?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Yes, it is different. (Explain your reason or reasons) There will be a reason for a friend to support you. It may be a win-win situation. But a family will offer support without expecting anything in return. So, support from a family is far more superior than support from a
Joint family (noun) – (especially in India) an extended family, typically consisting of three or more generations and their spouses, living together as a single household.
Eg: Sneha married Kalpesh and was living in a joint family.
Tough times (noun) – Times of trouble, struggle, or unhappiness.
Eg: John had a tough time after quitting his job.
Sacrifice (noun) – The act of sacrificing something [ sacrificing (verb) – give up (something valued) for the sake of other considerations].
Eg: Sita was aware of the sacrifices that her mother made.
Duty (noun) – a moral or legal obligation; a responsibility
Eg: Ram considered that it was his duty to provide good education to his children.
Win-win situation(noun) – one that is good for everyone who is involved
Eg: ABC company offered work from home facility because it was a win-win situation for the Company and its employees.
Describe a person who taught you something important
You should say,
- who this person is
- how you know this person
- what this person taught you
- and explain why you think this person taught you something important
(who this person is) (how you know this person) (what this person taught you) I have learnt something from every person I have met. One such interesting thing I learnt from my college mate Lakshmi is to draw mehndi designs. Though it seems simple, you have to work hard to learn the art of drawing minute designs on a human hand with a cone. There may be other perceptions, but I think it is one of the most important things I learnt.
(explain why you think this person taught you something important) It was my cousin’s wedding. She had arranged for a beautician to help her and others with decoration. The wedding was in Dubai. We planned to reach there early in the morning. But due to flight delays, we reached only at 8:00 AM. The beautician was busy draping the wedding saree to my cousin and did not even look at me. I waited. But after draping the saree, she began adjusting the makeup for my cousin. She never got satisfied. She did it over and over again. Time was running out. My cousin seemed to be in a world of her own. Nobody bothered to help me. So I began decorating on my own. I started drawing my own mehndi, which I learnt from Lakshmi. I put on some simple Arabic designs. It came out well. At the wedding, everyone appreciated me for my mehndi. Infact, my cousin’s mum apologised to me for the behaviour of the beautician and gave me special gifts as well.
Mehndi (noun) – The English word for “Mehndi” is “Myrtle”. It is a paste obtained from
grinding the leaves of the Myrtle shrub. It is also called, “Henna” or “Heena”.
Eg: Hasina was an expert in drawing mehndi designs.
Beautician (noun) – a person whose job is to give people beauty treatment
Eg: Shahnaz was a famous beautician in Delhi.
Drape (verb) – arrange (cloth or clothing) loosely or casually on or round something.
Eg: She draped a georgette saree on her own.
Makeup (noun) – cosmetics such as lipstick or powder applied to the face, used to enhance or alter the appearance
Eg: The actress wore heavy makeup.
Appreciated (verb) – recognize the full worth of.
Eg: The teacher appreciated the student for scoring full marks in maths.
1. What qualities do you think a good teacher should have?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) A good teacher should be skilled in her field. He/She should concentrate more on children who don’t perform well. They should be impartial and patient. They should pay individual attention to every student, understand their strengths and weaknesses, and encourage them to pursue their strengths. (Give an example) For example, a student who isn’t good in academics may be talented in sports. The teacher must encourage the student to excel in sports.
2. Who do you think can learn better? Older people or youngsters?
(Give a direct answer to the question) In my opinion, youngsters can perform better. (Explain your reason or reasons) They are good at grasping things. Older people may have developed some health complications, which would make them take more time to learn something new. But again, it varies from person to person. Few older people are healthy and compete with young people in learning new things. But a majority of them learn slowly.
3. What do you think is the best age for children to go to school?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) I think 5 is the right age to admit a child to school. 3 or 4 would be too early for the young brain to learn Language and arithmetic. At 5, learning would not be a burden to them. They will look forward to going to school.
4. What do you think parents should teach their children?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Parents should teach moral values. (Explain your reason or reasons) They should be taught to share things with others, respect elders, be friendly, and be truthful. They should also train their children to get up on time, wear uniforms and shoes by themselves, keep things in the proper place after usage. They should also help with the homework.
5. Do you think children can learn anything from other children?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Yes, they do. (Explain your reason or reasons) (Give an example) For example, one of my friends’ kids resisted drinking milk at home. But when a friend in the physical training class told him that he stayed active because of drinking milk, this kid also started drinking milk. Friends influence them more than their parents.
Impartial (Adj) – treating all rivals or disputants equally.
Eg: Judges are supposed to be impartial.
Majority (noun) – the greater number.
Eg: The political party won with a thumping majority.
Look forward (noun) – to feel pleased and excited about something that is going to happen
Eg: She looked forward to the birthday party.
Homework (noun) – schoolwork that a pupil is required to do at home.
Eg: The teacher told Seema that she must allow her child to do the homework on her own.
Resisted (verb) – try to prevent by action or argument.
Eg: The opposition resisted the government on its decision to provide subsidies to the poor.
Describe a person who is good at his or her job
You should say,
- who this person is
- How do you know them
- What this person does
- And explain why this person is good at his / her
(who this person is) ( how do you know them) (what this person does) In every field, some people stand apart. My cousin is one such person. She is an English professor at the Holy Cross College, Bangalore. She was weak in math when she was in school. She never got disheartened because of it. She graduated in English Literature and pursued a Masters in it. She later finished her research and is now a visiting Professor at Harvard. She has got bright chances to settle abroad.
(explain why this person is good at her job) She works hard. She is innovative and creative. She has been a key factor in establishing a language lab at her college. She has also paid visits to many colleges within India and gained immense knowledge on the methodology of the study of the English Language. She has been to many schools and observed the students. She has produced many research papers on the language. She is very famous in her college among the student community. The one thing they admire in her is that she spends more time with people who struggle to learn the language. She conducts phonetics classes in the evening, for those interested. She also does social work by associating herself with the NGOs. They teach English to poor people, free of cost. She has taught English to children in the slums as well. Though many students don’t opt for arts, she boldly pursued it and has proved herself in the field.
Professor (noun) – a teacher of the highest academic rank in a college or university, who has been awarded the title Professor in a particular branch of learning.
Eg: Raman was a Physics Professor at Stanford university.
Innovative (adj) – (of a person) introducing new ideas
Eg: Rex was famous as an innovative artist.
Admire (verb) – regard with respect or warm approval.
Eg: Indira Gandhi was admired for her courage.
Prove oneself (phrase) – to show that one is able to do something or to succeed.
Eg: Hilary proved herself in Politics.
1. How should new workers perform in their first jobs?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Be it any industry, new workers should work hard. They must be patient enough to learn the skills. They must be punctual. Nowadays, companies have smart cards to detect how many hours a person spends inside the premises. New workers should ensure that they don’t default in all these areas. They should also be diligent in their work. Over a period of time, these qualities will help them to succeed.
2. How can workers improve their work performance?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) Workers must continuously upskill themselves. They must attend various training sessions related to their field. For example, a computer software professional must use the training and seminars that his/her Company offers.
This will also help him/her to understand where they stand in terms of their technology. If there are any updates in their current technology, they must be aware of them.
3. What jobs are well paid in India?
(Give a direct answer to the question (Explain your reason or reasons) IT sectors and investment banks pay well. Nurses and teachers also receive a good pay package. Jobs that involve creativity, like designing and advertising, are also paid well. The marketing sector is also booming nowadays. So, there are chances that they might pay well.
4. What jobs are poorly paid in your country?
(Give a direct answer to the question) (Explain your reason or reasons) People who live on daily wages are not paid well. This includes people working in quarries, janitors, plumbers, electricians, workers who handle human waste, or sewage.
5. If someone is bored with their job, is it easy for them to change to a different job?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Absolutely, yes. (Explain your reason or reasons) There are so many opportunities nowadays. Also, there are a lot of companies. Especially, people in the IT sector switch jobs often. (Give an example) For example, my friend, who was working on Java for five years in a company, got bored with it. So, she learnt a new update in her technology called Spring boot. Later she moved to an IT division of an investment bank and is quite happy to be there.
Default (verb) – fail to fulfill an obligation, especially to repay a loan or to appear in a law court.
Eg: It is for the third time that the bank warned Tom not to default in payments
Seminars (noun) – a conference or other meeting for discussion or training.
Eg: Ram attended all the seminars on his technology.
Creativity (noun) – the use of imagination or original ideas to create something; inventiveness.
Eg: The manager was keen to encourage creativity.
Wages (noun) – a fixed regular payment earned for work or services, typically paid on a daily or weekly basis.
Eg: The workers did not receive wages for the day.
Update (noun) – an act of updating something or someone or an updated version of something.
Eg: There was a new update on the recently published tax rates.
Describe a family member who you spend the most time with
You should say:
- Who is this person?
- What kind of person he /she is?
- What do you usually do together?
- And explain why you spend the most time with him/her?
(Who this person is) I feel blessed to have a great family which made unparalleled contributions to help me go ahead.
Among them, my father’s impact is the most meaningful, and I treasure our quality time together.
(What kind of person he /she is?) He is the person whom I love most in this world, and I consider him to be a perfect father and husband with his upbeat disposition, resourcefulness and responsibility. My father is an exemplary person who has led an honest life. As a high-ranking government officer, he has had many chances to pile up the riches, but he always stood by the truth and never broke the rules.
(What do you usually do together?) From my childhood, he has dedicated much time to raising me with great care, affection and mentorship. When I was young, he taught me moral lessons about the world, inspirational people and values and also the necessary skills. No matter how preoccupied with work, he always tried to give wholehearted support to my education, especially with my activities at school. When we were together, he frequently discussed plans for the future and encouraged me to challenge myself to step out of my comfort zones.
(And explain why you spend the most time with him/her?) As a father, I would say he has done everything possible to raise my sister and me. He spent his entire life catering to our interests and demands. The basics of humanity and the importance of education were the values he delivered to me. We get on very well with each other, and I enjoy his company. Our times together have always been insightful and full of joy.
Vocabulary from Relationship:
to get on well with
Meaning: to understand someone and enjoy similar interests
Example: We all get on really well and have a lot in common so we’re always happy doing the
same things and going to the same places
to enjoy someone’s company
Meaning: to like spending time with someone
Example: I think we enjoy each other’s company so we rarely fall out with each other.
unparalleled [adj]: better than all others.
Eg: He had a talent unparalleled by any other politician in this country.
phenomenon [n]: something that exists and can be seen, felt, tasted, etc., especially something unusual or interesting.
Eg: Do you believe in the paranormal and other psychic phenomena?
upbeat [adj]: full of hope, happiness, and good feelings.
Eg: Live music and a parade set an upbeat mood for the official opening.
resourcefulness [n]: the ability to be good at finding ways of doing things and solving problems.
Eg: Resourcefulness is an essential quality for a good employee.
exemplary [adj]: providing a good example for somebody to copy.
Eg: Minh is the most exemplary student in our class this semester.
affection [n]: the feeling of liking or loving something/somebody very much.
Eg: Children nowadays need a lot of attention and affection.
inspirational [adj]: making you feel full of hope or encouraged.
Eg: He gave an inspirational reading of his own poems.
whole-hearted [adj]: completely enthusiastic.
Eg: The minister has pledged his wholehearted support for the plans.
comfort zone [expression]: a situation in which you feel comfortable and in which your ability and determination are not being tested.
Eg: Rock climbing pushes many people beyond their comfort zones.
perspiration [n]: the process of sweating.
Eg: He failed to do this, but found that shed blood and perspiration had no more attraction for females than had water.
insightful [adj]: having or showing an accurate and deep understanding; perceptive.:sâu sắc
Eg: This is a very thoughtful, insightful analysis.
PART 3: FAMILY
1. What are the benefits of younger and older generations living together? How about the drawbacks?
(Give a direct answer to the question) In terms of the advantages, we can see that the presence of older family members will ease the burden of raising kids. (Explain your reason or reasons) In large families, there are more connections and interactions between family members. Besides, grandparents could also teach valuable lessons and essential manners to their children. (Give an example (often a personal example)) However, there exist some generation gaps when three generations live together, which sometimes increases the tension between family members.
Nowadays, as life is becoming increasingly modernized, especially in hectic cities, only parents and children can live together.
2. Which do you prefer, support from family members or friends? Why?
(Give a direct answer to the question) My family. (Explain your reason or reasons) You can have many friends, but your family members are irreplaceable. Friends can come and go at different stages of your life like secondary school, high school, university, but it is your family who never abandons you no matter what happens. (Explain the opposite or alternative) Yet, your friends’ support is a crucial factor that leads to your personal growth. (Give an example (often a personal example)) From my experience, good friends are especially important during times of crisis and turbulence. When I find myself going through a hard time, my closest friend never failed to cheer me up and sailed me through both emotional and academic setbacks.
burden [n]: a duty that causes worry, difficulty or hard work.
Eg: I don’t want to become a burden to my family when I’m old.
valuable [adj]: very useful or important.
Eg: The book provides valuable information on recent trends.
tension [n]: a situation when people do not trust each other, or feel unfriendly towards each other.
Eg: There is mounting tension in the company.
hinder [v]: to make it difficult for somebody to do something or something to happen.
Eg: There is a political situation that hinders economic growth.
modernize [v]: to make something more modern and more suitable for use at the present time.
Eg: The factory is investing more money to modernize its facilities.
hectic [adj]: very busy, full of activity.
Eg: Ho Chi Minh is a very hectic city.
irreplaceable [adj]: cannot be replaced.
Eg: Her position in his heart is irreplaceable.
abandon [v]: to leave somebody, especially somebody you are responsible for.
Eg: The baby had been abandoned by its heartless mother.
turbulence [n]: a state of confusion without any order.
Eg: The era was characterized by political and cultural turbulence.
setback [n]: something that happens that delays or prevents a process from developing.
Eg: There has been a slight/temporary setback in our plans.
Describe a time when someone apologized to you
You should say:
- When it was
- Who this person is
- Why he or she apologized to you
- How you felt about it
(When it was and who this person is) Apologizing is a part of good manners, and I believe that it helps to alleviate many bothersome situations happening in everyday life. In several events, others have apologized to me but the apology from my closest friend, Linh, was the most significant to me. It happened a few months ago, when my father presented me with two movie tickets, as an incentive for achieving full scores in the English exam. The compelling trailer of this movie captured my attention right away, and I knew that I should enjoy it with my best friend. Unhesitatingly, I decided to invite Linh, and we quickly made an appointment for the cinema before 6 pm.
(Why he or she apologized to you) As scheduled previously, Linh was supposed to show up at the cinema at 5:30, but somehow she did not. I did give her so many rings, but she did not answer them. I kept waiting until 6 pm but in vain. In the heat of the moment, I lost my temper and furiously left her a message, saying how disappointed I was with her and asked whether she respected our relationship. A day later, Linh sent a heartfelt apology to me. She explained that on that day, her younger brother was disturbed by a severe eating disorder, and she had to take care of him at the hospital. Because the incident was so sudden and unexpected, she was too nervous about taking the phone with her and was unable to contact me. Linh hoped that I could understand and sympathize with her.
(How you felt about it) Honestly, I felt a little guilty for being too aggressive while knowing nothing about her situation. From this incident, I also understand that everything happens for a reason. We should not jump to a conclusion without careful consideration. Besides, sincere apologies are indeed an indication of respect for the relationship.
Vocabulary from Personality:
to lose one’s temper:
Meaning: to suddenly become angry
Example: You should not lose your temper in situations like that.
pacify [v]: to make somebody who is angry or upset become calm and quiet.
Eg: The speech was designed to pacify the irate crowd.
bothersome [adj]: special, good or unusual and therefore worth remembering or easy to remember.
Eg: This is a truly memorable occasion for all people involved.
incentive [n]: something that encourages you to do something.
Eg: In my country, there is literally no incentive for people to save fuel.
give somebody a ring [expression]: phone somebody.
Eg: Minh promised to give me a ring as soon as he came home.
in the heat of the moment [expression]: be in the moment of strong feelings, especially of anger or excitement.
Eg: In the heat of the moment, Linda forgot what she wanted to say to her mother.
furiously [adv]: in an angry way.
Eg: All the architects worked furiously during the week, complaining that their wages were unsatisfactory.
heartfelt [adj]: showing strong feelings that are sincere.
Eg: In the ceremony, the director expressed heartfelt gratitude to all the employees, who worked diligently on the project.
sympathize with [v]: to feel sorry for somebody; to show that you understand and feel sorry about somebody’s problem .
Eg: The reporter sympathized with the victim, because she herself has undergone such similar unhappy experiences.
jump to a conclusion [expression]: to make a decision about something/ somebody too quickly, before you know or have thought about all the facts.
Eg: The police neglectfully overlooked the situation and jumped to the conclusion that he was guilty.
indication [n]: a remark or sign that shows that something is happening or what somebody is thinking or feeling.
Eg: Obviously, there are indications that the economy of this nation is improving.
PART 3: APOLOGIZE
1. On what occasion do people usually apologize to others?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Well, sometimes people apologize when realizing that they may have hurt another individual (i.e., physically, emotionally, mentally) by accident.
A sincere apology allows you to let people know you’re not proud of what you did, and won’t be repeating the behaviour. (Give an example (often a personal example)) For example, whenever I lose my temper and misbehave, I send an apology to them.
2. Do people in your country like to say “sorry”?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Well, not very often (Explain your reason or reasons) I assume it’s not a part of our culture. (Give an example (often a personal example)) From my experience, Japanese people are more inclined to say sorry. Apologizing is built into the Japanese language. Japanese people have it in their blood; they apologize all the time, even when it’s not their fault. It’s almost like a reflex, but it’s not, because I could see the emotion in my Japanese friends’ eyes every time they apologized to me. They do it even if they touch you by mistake or have their back turned at you without being willing to.
3. Do you think people should apologize for anything wrong they do?
(Give a direct answer to the question) Yes, I do. (Explain your reason or reasons) If something you’ve done has caused pain for another person, it’s a good idea to apologize, even if your action was unintentional. This is because apologizing opens up the doors to communication, which allows you to reconnect with the person who was hurt. In these ways, being adept at apologizing when appropriate can bring the benefits that come with stronger relationships, reduced conflict, and forgiveness—it’s well worth the effort.
Vocabulary from Personality:
to lose one’s temper:
Meaning: to suddenly become angry
Example: You should not lose your temper in situations like that.
inappropriately [adv]: in a way that is unsuitable, or wrong in a particular situation.
Eg: There is nothing to suggest the attorney acted inappropriately in the case.
(be) inclined to [adj]: likely or wanting to do something.
Eg: No one seemed inclined to help.
reflex [n]: a physical reaction to something that you cannot control.
Eg: I’m sorry I punched him; it was a reflex action/response.
unintentional [adj]: not done on purpose.:
Eg: There’s an unintentional feeling of sadness in Woody Allen’s latest comedy.
adept [adj]: having a natural ability to do something that needs skill.
Eg: She’s very adept at dealing with the media.
worth the effort [expression]: If you say that something is worth the effort, you mean that it will justify the energy that you have spent or will spend on it.
Eg: Fortunately, the chore of leaf sweeping is well worth the effort.
Describe a time you do not tell your friend the truth
You should say
- What happened
- Why you did not tell the truth
- Who you did not tell the truth to
- And explain how you feel about it
Well, I have to say that I am not used to telling lies. I’m not perfect, and indeed, no one is. During my high school days, sitting exams was nerve-wracking, which drove me crazy. However, there was a time I fell behind with my studies and got a D in Chemistry test. Therefore, I was left with no choice but to make up a story
(Why you did not tell the truth):
I had always been a little boy to my parents, especially to my mom, who spoilt me a lot. To live up to my parent’s expectations, I had to study under a lot of pressure to make them proud. I still remember sitting the chemistry exam, and I felt that I was going to fail the test. The moment I received the test result from my teacher, I was anxious. Therefore, I had to lie to my parents so that I could avoid getting punished and letting my parents down.
(Who you did not tell the truth to):
It was my parents to whom I lied. Having known the result, I came home with a nervous look on my face. I informed my parents about my test results immediately. Surprisingly, they believed me without any suspicion. However, my school texted the result to my mother, and they got to know that I had fooled them. I got detention for one week, and I wasn’t allowed to use my mobile phone.
And explain how you feel about it
My parents were pissed off about the lie. Seeing how they reacted to my test result, I wished that I had not lied.
Part 3 questions:
1. Do people in your country judge people when they lie?
Yes, I do think that people will be judged when they lie to someone. Iranian people usually say “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me”, and I believe it is true. For example, if a company fails to make their promises to their counterparts, they are less likely to be chosen for the forthcoming projects.
2. How should we tell if it’s a white lie or not?
Well, there are some ways to find out if a person is telling a white lie. We can focus on their facial expressions. For example, if a person is telling a white lie, their eyes will dart back and forth, which indicates that they are feeling uncomfortable.
3. Is it acceptable to tell white lies?
I think there are times when it is suitable to tell white lies to other people. It is the time when they are asking about something that they like, like their haircut or maybe their makeup. When they think that they are glowing with a new skincare product or are proud of their achievements, we may not be necessarily impressed by it. But we can tell a white lie in those situations.
4. When do people often lie?
There are various reasons why people often lie. However, I think the key reason why they may lie
regularly is that they don’t want to disappoint other people. For example, I lied to my friend about her haircut, which was not great because I was worried that the truth might worsen our relationship.
5. Why do some people keep telling lies?
Maybe because some people consider telling lies an inconsequential issue; therefore, it gradually becomes a habit, and they cannot give up on it. For example, my friend had to lie to her parents about her test results, and day by day, she was accustomed to lying to other people.
VOCABULARY FROM EDUCATION
Meaning: To take an exam
Example: If my teacher hadn’t convinced me to sit for the SAT, I never would have gotten into college.
Fall behind with your studies
Meaning: to progress less quickly than others
Example: He was ill for six weeks and fell behind with his schoolwork.
Meaning: difficult to do and causes a lot of worry for the person involved in it
Example: My wedding was the most nerve-wracking thing I’ve ever experienced.
Left someone with no choice
Meaning: to make someone feel that they must do something
Example: I was left with no choice but to report him.
To make up something
Meaning: To invent an excuse, a story, etc., often in order to deceive
Example: I was trying to make up a good excuse for being late.
Meaning: To treat someone very or too well, especially by being extremely generous Example: When I’m feeling miserable I go shopping and spoil myself – a couple of new dresses always make me feel better.
Live up to something
Meaning: To be as good as something
Example: The concert was brilliant – it lived up to all our expectations.
Meaning: to cause someone who has done something wrong or committed a crime to suffer, by hurting them, forcing them to pay money, sending them to prison, etc.
Example: He punished the class by giving them extra work.
Let someone down
Meaning: Fail to support or help someone as they had hoped or expected.
Example: I promised Sophie I would meet her and I can’t let her down.
Meaning: doubt or lack of trust
Example: Since they discovered the truth about his background, his colleagues have regarded him with suspicion.
Meaning: a form of punishment in which children are made to stay at school for a short time after classes have ended
Example: She’s had four detentions this term.
To be pissed off about something Meaning: annoyed
Example: She seemed a bit pissed off that she hadn’t been invited.
“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me”
Meaning: After being tricked once, one should learn from one’s mistakes and avoid being tricked in the same way again.
Back and forth
Meaning: Moving first in one direction and then in the opposite one
Example: She swayed gently back and forth to the music.
Inconsequential Meaning: Not important
Example: Most of what she said was pretty inconsequential.
To be accustomed to
Meaning: Familiar with something
Example: I’m not accustomed to being treated like this